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iwillsurvive · 10-15-2009, 10:59 PM

This is what kills me.

My husband came forward with all the information. He told me that his old high school girlfriend had contacted him and that they had talked multiple times. He also told me that he knew he needed to stop talking to her because it would only lead to trouble as has all those "first love" feelings/memories/etc. still about her.

Until that point, I had no reason not to believe that he would cut it off as he promised.

Less than a month later he came home and told me he had screwed up and destroyed our marriage. He actually came home from having sex with her and told me. After crying, screaming and fighting most of that night, I really thought I could at least give him a chance because he had been truthful.

The lies didn't start until AFTER he told me. How messed up is that? He told me he cut off contact, multiple times- he didn't. Not for a couple months. He told me he wanted our marriage to work when in reality he wasn't sure what he wanted.

It wasn't until I had proof that they were still in contact that I asked him to leave and he knew our marriage would be over that I really started to see change. But even know, when things are getting better, I have this side of me that questions EVERYTHING he says and wonders if it's another lie.

I HATE that he has made me doubt everything I ever believed about our marriage.

10-15-2009, 10:59 PM	#17 (permalink)
iwillsurvive Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Washington State Posts: 50	Re: The Lies This is what kills me. My husband came forward with all the information. He told me that his old high school girlfriend had contacted him and that they had talked multiple times. He also told me that he knew he needed to stop talking to her because it would only lead to trouble as has all those "first love" feelings/memories/etc. still about her. Until that point, I had no reason not to believe that he would cut it off as he promised. Less than a month later he came home and told me he had screwed up and destroyed our marriage. He actually came home from having sex with her and told me. After crying, screaming and fighting most of that night, I really thought I could at least give him a chance because he had been truthful. The lies didn't start until AFTER he told me. How messed up is that? He told me he cut off contact, multiple times- he didn't. Not for a couple months. He told me he wanted our marriage to work when in reality he wasn't sure what he wanted. It wasn't until I had proof that they were still in contact that I asked him to leave and he knew our marriage would be over that I really started to see change. But even know, when things are getting better, I have this side of me that questions EVERYTHING he says and wonders if it's another lie. I HATE that he has made me doubt everything I ever believed about our marriage. Last edited by iwillsurvive; 10-15-2009 at 11:04 PM.