I love my husband, needless to say. We've been married a year and a half. Me 26, him 28. 10 months old baby girl
We are totally opposites and still we get along pretty well
Thing here... I'd like to know if anyone knows if I can do something to show him how to love the right way...
Why?
A little bit of story...
-His father is an abusive and treated pretty bad her mom in front os him and his little brothers. I don't think he had the nicest childhood They separated whe he was like 12 and his mom moved to another state. Then, hubby decided to come back to live with granparents. He didn't have any goverment, so he started living pretty fast very young. Around 6 years later his grandma dies, and 2 years later his grandfather... So, despite of beaing in touch with his father, he always was in trouble, was an alcoholic before 18, didn't finish studies, did drugs, a lot of women... etc...!!!
Yes, I met him when he was 23 and he was all that without me know it. Because we had a "sporadic" relationship. We did the 12 steps program and he stopped drinking. He became more like "well behaved"... I started falling in love with "my new man". Yes, I am codependent and still working on it.
Is it possible, all things he passed before had made him as cold as he is? He never shows his feelings. No words. No hugs. No kisses. (Sure he can do it when he is looking after something he wants, i.e. going out with friends or back when i found out he wanted to have an affair when I was pregnant)...
There is so much toruble in here, I know...
But I am looking for some way to make him want to be only with his wife and his daughter. I want to teach him how to be more affectionate, caring, loving.
Can that be possible?
We are totally opposites and still we get along pretty well
Thing here... I'd like to know if anyone knows if I can do something to show him how to love the right way...
Why?
A little bit of story...
-His father is an abusive and treated pretty bad her mom in front os him and his little brothers. I don't think he had the nicest childhood They separated whe he was like 12 and his mom moved to another state. Then, hubby decided to come back to live with granparents. He didn't have any goverment, so he started living pretty fast very young. Around 6 years later his grandma dies, and 2 years later his grandfather... So, despite of beaing in touch with his father, he always was in trouble, was an alcoholic before 18, didn't finish studies, did drugs, a lot of women... etc...!!!
Yes, I met him when he was 23 and he was all that without me know it. Because we had a "sporadic" relationship. We did the 12 steps program and he stopped drinking. He became more like "well behaved"... I started falling in love with "my new man". Yes, I am codependent and still working on it.
Is it possible, all things he passed before had made him as cold as he is? He never shows his feelings. No words. No hugs. No kisses. (Sure he can do it when he is looking after something he wants, i.e. going out with friends or back when i found out he wanted to have an affair when I was pregnant)...
There is so much toruble in here, I know...
But I am looking for some way to make him want to be only with his wife and his daughter. I want to teach him how to be more affectionate, caring, loving.
Can that be possible?