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Corpuswife · 10-17-2009, 06:07 PM

After the stock market crash in Oct. 08...he came home day after day pained (he's in the financial field). After asking what I could do to help, etc...I asked "what is it...is it me?" It was like pulling teeth. He said he loved me but was no longer "in love" with me. He also said he wasn't attracted to me anymore.

After a long 9 months of MC and me begging, pleading, convincing, trying anything that I could do..he moved out (separation).
I did the no contact thing (LMBT) and only communicated regarding kids/mutual business. He hated it. In my mind, I was giving him the real world of divorce. You don't get to chit chat with your wife/ex when you are divorced.

Anyway, we've been separated for 3 months. See my "real world" thead for details. He sees the grass is greener and is unhappy. I think it's depression/midlife/NG syndrome. Whatever it is...it's not ALL me. We had a good marriage for 23 years. Now he is flaking out.

You can't do anything to change their mind. It's been a year and he's as nice as pie now. I am no longer doing no contact as he's filed for a divorce. It's the friendliest divorce in Texas.

There is a life after your H. Even if he comes back...make sure it's what you want. Often when we get left behind...we focus only on the positive. My H had plenty of negative but I was willling to overlook those!

10-17-2009, 06:07 PM	#12 (permalink)
Corpuswife Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,632	Re: Please Help! I can't do this Anymore!I keep taking sleeping meds to deal! HELP After the stock market crash in Oct. 08...he came home day after day pained (he's in the financial field). After asking what I could do to help, etc...I asked "what is it...is it me?" It was like pulling teeth. He said he loved me but was no longer "in love" with me. He also said he wasn't attracted to me anymore. After a long 9 months of MC and me begging, pleading, convincing, trying anything that I could do..he moved out (separation). I did the no contact thing (LMBT) and only communicated regarding kids/mutual business. He hated it. In my mind, I was giving him the real world of divorce. You don't get to chit chat with your wife/ex when you are divorced. Anyway, we've been separated for 3 months. See my "real world" thead for details. He sees the grass is greener and is unhappy. I think it's depression/midlife/NG syndrome. Whatever it is...it's not ALL me. We had a good marriage for 23 years. Now he is flaking out. You can't do anything to change their mind. It's been a year and he's as nice as pie now. I am no longer doing no contact as he's filed for a divorce. It's the friendliest divorce in Texas. There is a life after your H. Even if he comes back...make sure it's what you want. Often when we get left behind...we focus only on the positive. My H had plenty of negative but I was willling to overlook those!