Originally Posted by JaLeRi
I have never had anyone in my life that I could "talk" to about things. My mother doesn't like talking about things, my siblings and I aren't that kind of close and are having a hard time with life then me. I only ever have had counselors to help me with things. Which I have pursued on my own and dealt with on my own. I don't like to burden people with my problems. I don't want people to really know how damaged I am. Would rather appear perfect and happy. I feel its only fair that i open up to a counselor they are trained to deal with my garbage and are not affected by it.
I just never expected him to be that person for me. I don't want to make him uncomfortable, and i don't want him to be hurt by something he has no control over.
Things are just very black and white with him he knows what he wants and doesn't want. If anyone left he would leave me.
Like i said before I knew who I married when I married him.
I just wanted to speak to those words. Many of my close female friends have confided in me that they have experienced molestation and/or rape before the age of 18. I would say over 50%.
On the same token, as someone deeply involved in mens work and support, I've since discovered that many men I know have also been the victim of sexual abuse. Again, over 50%. I was shocked.
But in a strange way, it made me feel more connected to humanity as a whole - many men and women have gone through awful, awful, awful things they did not deserve.
Everyone has their issues and from my perspective, I actually have a higher opinion of people who have been through undesirable circumstances and have had the strength and wisdom to address them like you have. This takes tremendous courage. And from my experience, I've felt a deeper personal/emotional connection to such people.
They're more "real". And they better understand what is important in life.