| | Infidelity or not? What do you think?
Hello looking for others advice and input for those that are dealing with relationship problems. I've received advice from my inner circle, but I'm not sure anyone can really relate. I am distraught and really beginning to feel very low about myself. Please let me know what you think.
Been married 12 years with 3 kids. Wife and I don't have a great relationship and frankly never had, emotionally, physically or otherwise, but we've been together forever so we've made it work.
Before we were married my wife (then girlfriend) cheated on me and I did not know. Likewise before we were married I asked her specifically what happened and she denied anything. Fast forward 12 years and I have found out and found out many details. So that's not the only thing, it has become aparent that she has a history of lying about everything to avoid conflict (i.e. how many cavities kids have etc). I feel betrayed, confused and sad and having a REALLY tough time letting all this go.
Interested in your opinions and advice on how to deal and if I should even be upset. Part of my says this is all in the past, but due to her dishonesty in other areas and her ability to hid this for so many, I can't help but wonder what else is there. She denies of course anything else. The other thing that haunts me is why is she even still with me? Is it comfort and a good life I provide? Not sure.
Thanks again and sorry if I rambled a bit.