Originally Posted by turnera
Cheaters will not tell the truth.
All that does is warn the cheater to be better at hiding, now that the spouse suspects.
I disagree, but that's OK.
I think people need to go with their gut. If somebody seems to be cheating, if their behavior is distant, if something feels off, then I don't see a reason not to say so and deal with the problem in the relationship: there is still a problem, whether you have "details" or not. I'm not sure how "catching" somebody really does anything useful. A problem is a problem, and the problem that exists is big enough to tackle on its own. This is simply my opinion, though, and the poster is free to take it with a grain of salt
I'm big on honesty and not stooping to the level of snooping or getting into somebody else's privacy, so that's always going to be in my advice.