somethingelse

I agree that snooping can lead you away from your normal everyday life, but it's also hard to live a life if you are believing it all could be a lie. It eats away at you.

You've already asked your spouse about this so called "night with a guy friend who needed to be picked up", and you still feel he is lying to you. So what do you think would happen if you sit him down again for a talk? You know your H better than any of us. You already have this feeling of deceit from him.

I've tried everything in the book with mine....I've sat him down and talked rationally about my suspicions or my findings, I've gone the whole nine yards....he's lied hundreds of times to me over and over....have had many different kinds of situations happen.

If you feel that you won't find anything right now, then just leave this whole thing alone. Wait a while and give him the benefit of the doubt. No point in continually searching for things he might have deleted already, or might not even be happening for all you know.

Wait a while....the truth will reveal itself. I find though if you don't have evidence and you tell your H that you have suspicions about him, it will just make him feel like you don't have trust for him if he isn't doing anything.