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Old 08-08-2012, 10:07 AM   #7 (permalink)
darnitall
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Default Re: Sexless, affectionless marriage, looking for advice

To the person who suggested divorce. I had considered it strongly last year but at the time we had just found oht she was pregnant. What had me considering divorce was an incident at work in which she claimed she was being sexually harassed one day. So I emailed the guy and told him to keep his hands to himself and watch what he says to my wife cuz next time I would show up at her work. Well the email I got back just tore the life right out of me. He started off by insulting me calling me a dumb redneck, and then told me its not him I should be talking to its my wife. He told me all the highly flirty and sexual things she had been saying to him and other guys. At the time I was also on anti deppressants for anxiety, well my wife had told him that to. so he went on to call me a psycho, and lasty my wife had apparently told him i had gained 15 lbs since we first met. I was so shocked to read this email I did not speak to my wife for 2 days. Then we found out we we were pregnant. She repeatedly told me he was lying, I askes how he knew so much personal stuff about me and her answer was he made it up. Well I chose to believe her and move on. I just let it go. I was ready for divorce but I dont want my son to have a broken family.

Sometimes I think its best to co exist be loving and supportive of her and hope for the best, if not Ill leave after my son graduates high school so it wont hurt him as bad. I have countless more incidents like the above one, usually involving my wifes old f*ck buddies, in her words, contacting her via facebook. I dont believe she has ever cheated but it seems like she did have a high sex drive, just not with me anymore.

I have read many books about sex and got her to read one or two as well but she is unwilling to try anything in the books. just ranting now I guess
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