Originally Posted by kingsfan
Do any men find it a bit insulting that their wives need to read some erotica, or see a movie (such as Magic Mike) to suddenly be horny as heck for them?
I mean I'd likely enjoy the situation myself, but it sure would cheapen it for me that my wife would need that to get that horny for me when she couldn't be bothered a few weeks earlier. I don't see to many tales on here about how a man wasn't interested in his wife but after reading an edition of Penthouse Forum he was suddenly revved up for his wife. Vice versa, I doubt I'd be reading to many women saying "Right on, go for it and enjoy this time" if he was.
Seriously, why is it so hard for a woman to get turned on by her own man who is at home that she needs to turn to a fantasy book to get the juices flowing?
Arousal is a response. For many women, getting turned on is a mental thing, not just a physical thing. Erotic thoughts become erotic actions. We often hear that men are visual (hence, porn pics and videos)...women can be visual, too, but many need the mental turn-on.
Sounds like the OP's wife found the books a mental turn-on, and her husband giving them to her to read probably "allowed" her to express her turn-ons to him instead of being afraid (or ashamed or inhibited or whatever) to tell him what turns her on.