Originally Posted by norajane
I believe that when relationships are new, the sex is exciting by virtue of the newness and the "in love" brain chemicals. Once that fades, men are still aroused by nakedness and proximity (men's bodies are biologically wired to want sex all the time), but women need a mentally erotic component to it to be turned on (because their bodies are biologically wired to want sex during ovulation, not all the time).
That's my theory - I have no evidence to back me up! (Except, maybe, the thousands of reviews on Amazon of the 50 shades books).
I guess I'm more of the opinion that if a woman has a good husband and actually works at it, she can get herself into the mood for her own husband on a semi-regular basis.
It's just a pet peeve of mine I guess that I (and this does apply to other men as well, as this forum would attest) am even more turned on by my fiancee now than I was several years ago, while she may need to read an erotic novel to want to jump my bones.
Why not just put some effort into it for your own man, who does a heck of a lot more for you in life than some fictional character in a book.
I'm just venting, nothing personal norajane.