| | Re: Sexless, affectionless marriage, looking for advice
Your wife does not see you as sexual, but she does see all these other men as sexual. She is constantly testing you. She is testing you becuase she wants to confirm to her inner self that you are not a sexual male for her to be attracted to. You have to suprise her by acting like a male that she can be sexually attracted to.
Unnattractive behaviors you are doing:
-- Not throwing her out of your presence if she brings up a sexual act she performed with other males. Or saying "wife that's awesome... No go upstairs right now and get your ass ready for me!"
-- Sweeping the flirting episode under the rug
-- Continuing to do more and more work to improve her life while she does less and less work to improve your life
-- Tolerating the sexual rejection (in fact, you do MORE when rejected).
In short, you should not act unattractively. I personally at your age would begin initiating the divorce process. Divorce takes a long time, in which you are giving her the opportunity to prove to you that she deserves to stay as your wife.