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Chelle D · 08-08-2012, 06:30 PM

hhmmmm... sounds like besides just a family cookout, it was sisters birthday cookout with neighborhood friends.

Maybe the sister invited some neighbors/friends... and then she was invited from them... etc. etc.

I'd believe hubby. If he didn't know she was there.. and as soon as she walked up & asked your friend if your hubby was her man (passively aggressively trying to stir **** , because she 'knew' who's man it was)... and Your hubby said "Okay, were leaving now". You should have just let him difuse the situation & left with him then.

Maybe he did not "split" with her very well. Maybe she didn't know you were still in the picture & thought that he might show up at his sisters party & she wanted to catch up & talk to him... You were there & put a damper on her plans. Sounds like she drank too much & wanted to start a confrontation. Sounds like hubby didn't want a fight to start. ... So he said, lets go.

Maybe I'm odd.. but I don't think you have a right to be mad at his family. They were having a neighborhood cook out with celebrating the sisters birthday. They have a right to do that. They may have not known that the lady did not take well to your hubby splitting up with her & going back to you.
It was not just "only family" at this cookout - obviously... Seems like neighbors were encouraged to come & go as they pleased. I'd leave it rest. I don't think hubby thought she'd be there. If he did think she might show up & told you "Hey, the gal I dated while we were seperated, might show up at my sisters birthday". Would you have wanted to go?? Would you have trusted him to go alone?

08-08-2012, 06:30 PM	#5 (permalink)
Chelle D Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Middle USA Posts: 900	Re: The Confrontation hhmmmm... sounds like besides just a family cookout, it was sisters birthday cookout with neighborhood friends. Maybe the sister invited some neighbors/friends... and then she was invited from them... etc. etc. I'd believe hubby. If he didn't know she was there.. and as soon as she walked up & asked your friend if your hubby was her man (passively aggressively trying to stir **** , because she 'knew' who's man it was)... and Your hubby said "Okay, were leaving now". You should have just let him difuse the situation & left with him then. Maybe he did not "split" with her very well. Maybe she didn't know you were still in the picture & thought that he might show up at his sisters party & she wanted to catch up & talk to him... You were there & put a damper on her plans. Sounds like she drank too much & wanted to start a confrontation. Sounds like hubby didn't want a fight to start. ... So he said, lets go. Maybe I'm odd.. but I don't think you have a right to be mad at his family. They were having a neighborhood cook out with celebrating the sisters birthday. They have a right to do that. They may have not known that the lady did not take well to your hubby splitting up with her & going back to you. It was not just "only family" at this cookout - obviously... Seems like neighbors were encouraged to come & go as they pleased. I'd leave it rest. I don't think hubby thought she'd be there. If he did think she might show up & told you "Hey, the gal I dated while we were seperated, might show up at my sisters birthday". Would you have wanted to go?? Would you have trusted him to go alone?