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I have been with my husband 15 years.
After the first year I found out his daughter had stolen a bunch of stuff from me.
This is when all sorts of false accusations against me started.
I just wanted to give you that little piece of info.

The last few years my husband has become a real nit picker. And lways putting me down. I finally had it when he complained cause I did not turn the fan on above the stove before I started cooking. It seems like I can not do anything right in his eyes anymore. He even admitted that I do not live up to his expectations. He told me no one in his family likes me.
I do not know what I could have done to make them not like me.
I am not allowed to ask. He said if I bring his family into this he will divorce me right away. I would do anything for any of them if they asked. I would like to know if the reason is based on something I did. Or a lie. I think I have a right to know.
He quit (retired) from his job about 9 months ago, said he was too stressed at his job. He cashed out his retirement and we moved to another state. We have no income. We bought a house and have less than $75,000 left in the bank. I know I have my faults. But do not think I deserve how he treats me. I have a fear of driving when there is a lot of traffic and places that are not familiar. I did not get my drivers license till I was 40 years old. I have been really stressed the last few days. I know it is affecting my health. I have high blood pressure. And it has been high lately. If I tell him that, he would just say I want him to feel sorry for me. thanks for any advice.