| | Re: need advice
He can bring his family into arguments to make you feel bad, and if you bring them in it's divorce-worthy. He has an expectation that he can set expectations for you. He won't even let you cook food without dictating how it's done.
You are right that you don't deserve to be mistreated, even if you don't meet his expectations. As far as what his family thinks, that is between you and them. They are adults, you're an adult. Tell him if they have a problem with you, you're capable of discussing it with them anytime, but that you will not listen to snipe attacks.
You want to stay in this relationship.... why?