Originally Posted by Matrimonial_gloom

Perhaps I have been too willing to reconcile. We have two small children, and I cannot bear the thought of putting them through a divorce at the moment.

We have not exposed the affair to our families or children. I have told one of my best friends, and I think she confides in one of her best friends (not the one she wants to see).

The OM has a wife, and she and I have had extensive correspondence. In fact, I found out most of the details from her.