| | Re: Reconciliation Not Going Well
Michzz, I can't believe you read her post and then acted like she was partly to blame!
Part of the problem for women in her position is the "blame the victim" mentality that exists. How is she being controlling when he physically abuses her, doesn't give her access to money, behaves selfishly and has absolutely no respect for her?
I am astonished that you would belittle her education by classifying it as her "wanting to do things on the weekend" and he should have some "me time" too.
Strongenough, I hope you can see that there is never any excuse for controlling someone with physical abuse, controlling someone by withholding money, breaking all one's promises, calling one's partner derogatory names and completely disregarding your partner's feelings. There are support systems out there.
Ultimately the decision is yours but his bags would be packed and on the lawn with a court order restricting his access to the premises and the police on standby. Why should you leave the home? He should be the one to leave!
There are two sides to every story except when abuse is taking place!!! There is no justification for abuse, NONE, and he clearly doesn't take you seriously if there was absolutely no effort made on his part to seek the help he promised to seek!
You and your children are in a very dangerous situation. At this point, you taking him back without ensuring that he had already taken measures to follow through with some of the promises just proved to him that there's nothing he can't do to you.
Please be careful.