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Old 08-11-2012, 07:51 PM   #1 (permalink)
jennyp0305
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Unhappy He's not making any sacrifices

My boyfriend proposed to me on the fourth of July. I want to marry him, but there are a few issues that are nagging me that I would just like some insight on.

First, he drives three to for times a week to spend the night with me (not yet living together). He lives 45 minutes away. That is the ONLY sacrifice it seems he's willing to make. He has told me he won't move very far, and I have a son from a previous relationship, and I don't think its fair to rip him away from everything he knows without really considering our options. He also has said we are going to live in the woods but I want to live on the beach. Its been my dream forever. He says he won't do it. He also says were getting married in vegas. Not exactly my idea if a dream wedding. Call me crazy, but I've always wanted a nice (not huge or overly extravagant, just nice) wedding. A day I can share with my husband and my friends and family. My son has asked if he could be the best man. He is so exited that I'm getting married, I don't have the heart to tell him that if it goes the way my fiancee wants, he probably won't even be there.

I know this doesn't sound huge, but these things have been bothering me. I feel like its all one sided. I don't doubt that he loves me, I just think marriage should be about us as a family, not as individuals.
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