| | Re: He is always ANGRY
I think the first trouble sign was likely that he was a 30 + year old man who is unemployed and still lives with his parents. That he was drunk and physically abusive to boot, yikes.
My guess is ultimately, he wants to recreate that dynamic, where he has no responsibilities and is free to do what he wants. He resents having to be an adult and having to work.
Given his behavior, I'd say he's likely fallen off the wagon, even if he's gotten slightly better at hiding his drinking. Further, he's likely working on a EA if not a PA with the "boat" co-worker, given that he's open about searching dating sites on the home computer, showing he has no respect for boundaries or you.
I'm usually the last one to recommend divorce, but - you gave him a chance even after he was verbally and physically abusive. Please don't give him a second chance to get physical.