gordis

Thank you for your responses. My husband pays for his own education through loans. I am not financing one cent of it. He sometimes gets extra money from loans and he always puts it in our joint account and always spends some of the money on me. Financially he is responsible and understands the family budget. He really doesn't spend money on anything other than food and beer.

It is possible to become a legal citizen with 1 year in the country. It just all depends on circumstances.

As far as education, I have a masters degree, working on a second, and have a good job at a major university in my state. He is going to school, but has lately been skipping days and dropping alot of classes. He has told me he is tired of going to school. I don't think he hangs out with friends much. Maybe once or twice a month and I have seen him on many occasions pass up a chance to go be with friends because he "didn't feel like it".

I am not sure why he won't help me with things and this along with other factors has me very upset. His reasoning along with his other behaviors has made me think he was depressed. I am hoping the councilor can sort it out. He promised to see one next week when classes start. If something comes up and he refuses to go then I will take this as a sign, but he has not fought me one bit on going.