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gordis · 08-12-2012, 07:33 AM

I have tried doing things together with him. If I ask him to run errands with me then he is not interested. I also asked him to go to the beach with me (I moved very close) and he didn't want to. If I ask him to take me to some kind of event or movie the answer is always no. The only place I have been able to get him to go is out to eat.

I think school is very overwhelming for him now. English is his second language, although he speaks English very well. He has gone to school for over 2 years without taking any semesters off. He was working for the first year and going to school, but that almost killed our marriage as we never saw each other. We both agreed that in the long run it would be better if I focused on working and he focused on school, at least until he finished. He has really struggled with some classes because of the structure and personalities of some of the professors. He is a very intelligent man, but I think when he had some difficulties with calculus than that was a blow to his ego. You see he was a high school math teacher and he failed/dropped this course 2 times. He has since changed his major so he doesn't have to take calculus, however, the change added another 6-12 months before he will finish.

I am really having a hard time figuring him out at this point and I can't tell if he doesn't love me or is majorly depressed. We communicate over the phone or through text messages now that we are living apart. His messages are often cold, however he will message me through the day to ask me how I am. He sometimes tells me he loves me but won't spend more than 5 minutes in a google hangout with me although I tell him I miss him. Yet he spends a large portion of the day fixing my website.

08-12-2012, 07:33 AM	#6 (permalink)
gordis Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 9	Re: Is he depressed? I have tried doing things together with him. If I ask him to run errands with me then he is not interested. I also asked him to go to the beach with me (I moved very close) and he didn't want to. If I ask him to take me to some kind of event or movie the answer is always no. The only place I have been able to get him to go is out to eat. I think school is very overwhelming for him now. English is his second language, although he speaks English very well. He has gone to school for over 2 years without taking any semesters off. He was working for the first year and going to school, but that almost killed our marriage as we never saw each other. We both agreed that in the long run it would be better if I focused on working and he focused on school, at least until he finished. He has really struggled with some classes because of the structure and personalities of some of the professors. He is a very intelligent man, but I think when he had some difficulties with calculus than that was a blow to his ego. You see he was a high school math teacher and he failed/dropped this course 2 times. He has since changed his major so he doesn't have to take calculus, however, the change added another 6-12 months before he will finish. I am really having a hard time figuring him out at this point and I can't tell if he doesn't love me or is majorly depressed. We communicate over the phone or through text messages now that we are living apart. His messages are often cold, however he will message me through the day to ask me how I am. He sometimes tells me he loves me but won't spend more than 5 minutes in a google hangout with me although I tell him I miss him. Yet he spends a large portion of the day fixing my website.