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Amplexor · 06-12-2008, 05:06 PM

You will have a long way to go in this. My best advice is to be patient with her and make sure you really can live with whatever changes you are making for life. Since your batting average is bad in her eyes you will need to be very consistent in your changes. She has probably detached herself from you in an attempt to ease the pain of what you have done in the past. She has lost trust in you because you have failed her in the past repeatedly. This road will be very long. I’ve been on it a year myself. Don’t overreact to the situation. Don’t dote on her or overload her. Gifts, cards, flowers… Some is ok but don’t overdue it. If she hasn’t had that kind of attention in the past it will come off as insincere now. Be as honest and open with her as you can and ask her to do the same. Find out what it is she really wants in the marriage besides getting rid of the bad behavior you have exhibited in the past. Read my mantra below and use those words in putting together a plan for your marital recovery.

PS Good luck on the ADHD. My youngest has mild to moderate symptoms and I understand the additional stress this can bring to both parents.

06-12-2008, 05:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 678	Re: Trying to keep my marriage together! You will have a long way to go in this. My best advice is to be patient with her and make sure you really can live with whatever changes you are making for life. Since your batting average is bad in her eyes you will need to be very consistent in your changes. She has probably detached herself from you in an attempt to ease the pain of what you have done in the past. She has lost trust in you because you have failed her in the past repeatedly. This road will be very long. I’ve been on it a year myself. Don’t overreact to the situation. Don’t dote on her or overload her. Gifts, cards, flowers… Some is ok but don’t overdue it. If she hasn’t had that kind of attention in the past it will come off as insincere now. Be as honest and open with her as you can and ask her to do the same. Find out what it is she really wants in the marriage besides getting rid of the bad behavior you have exhibited in the past. Read my mantra below and use those words in putting together a plan for your marital recovery. PS Good luck on the ADHD. My youngest has mild to moderate symptoms and I understand the additional stress this can bring to both parents. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.