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Deejo · 06-12-2008, 05:15 PM

They sound like fundamentally damaged people. I'm ok with saying that, because my in-laws are extremely damaged.
I will tell you that it took counseling for my wife to work through how screwed up her parents were, and the impact they had on her life.

The first time she stood up to her mother, I was extremely proud of her. Subsequently, we had no contact with them for over a year. Sadly, they eventually called and apologized.

How your in-laws interact with their son, you can only have so much influence upon - particularly if your husband won't take any action.

How they interact with your son, is an entirely different matter. We have the benefit of being nearly 2 hours away from the in-laws, and they don't like to drive. So, proximity has done wonders for keeping the peace. If you are nearby to his parents, I don't have any solid recommendations other than adopting the viewpoint of trying to deal with them as if you are dealing with small children. Accept that they will do and say stupid things, and if they step way over the line - reprimand them. They may make a fuss, but they will think twice before stepping over again.

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Deejo Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 105	Re: In Laws have destroyed my marriage They sound like fundamentally damaged people. I'm ok with saying that, because my in-laws are extremely damaged. I will tell you that it took counseling for my wife to work through how screwed up her parents were, and the impact they had on her life. The first time she stood up to her mother, I was extremely proud of her. Subsequently, we had no contact with them for over a year. Sadly, they eventually called and apologized. How your in-laws interact with their son, you can only have so much influence upon - particularly if your husband won't take any action. How they interact with your son, is an entirely different matter. We have the benefit of being nearly 2 hours away from the in-laws, and they don't like to drive. So, proximity has done wonders for keeping the peace. If you are nearby to his parents, I don't have any solid recommendations other than adopting the viewpoint of trying to deal with them as if you are dealing with small children. Accept that they will do and say stupid things, and if they step way over the line - reprimand them. They may make a fuss, but they will think twice before stepping over again.