Alone@home

Thanks for all your info!
I can see that there is a lot of red flags. I have so many unanswered questions and don't know what she is doing. I read what I wrote and I think that maybe I should add the following and see what you think again.

When my wife went to stay with her parents in mid-May it was a weekend. The first night she left she just said she can't deal with "this" and said I'll be home tomorrow. She did come home the next day and then told me she was going to stay at her parents for awhile and took some clothes.
At the end of the week with no contact from her, I got a one line email saying she was coming over on the weekend for a bit. That day she came over she seemed still unhappy and didn't talk much but said she feels more comfortable staying at her parents and isn't sad about it. Again she packed some more clothes and let for her parents.
Another week went by and again no contact from her till the weekend. I get a text message from her saying again that she will be at the house. She talks a bit again basically saying that she doesn't know what she wants to do but is talking about separation and not sure if she wants to be married she says that she doesn't feel she can make an effort in this marriage right now and need to find herself as an individual and she will come the next weekend to pack up her things. Of course she grabs one more load of clothes and goes back to her parents.
Over all those weeks she never called to talk on the phone. Only a text or email direct to the point.
But.. last weekend seemed different. The night before she was to come and pack up all her stuff she called me on my cell. Talked politely and asked if she was still ok to come over the next day to pack her stuff. I said yes, and took the day off work to be there. The day she was to pack up all her stuff she didn't show up until 2pm! She did pack and I was being pretty blunt and withdrawn to her. We did talk a little. I could tell she was getting a little upset and then she made the excuse that she had to get to her parents for supper @ 6pm. She had only packed 1/2 her stuff! I said ok and she left with a car load of boxes and looked like she was going to cry. The next day she came back to pack and we ended up talking for like 2.5hrs. she didn't pack anything else really, just took the boxes that she left behind the day before. While we talked she seemed happy, cheerful, and opened up quite a bit. She admitted that she had left crying the day before....
Two days later she sends me some information I had requested and sent more than a one line email and actually signed her name to it. The next day she called the house around the time when I would've been home from work (but I stayed late) and ended up leaving a message about that info in the email she sent only the day before! She hasn't called me on my cell or @ home since she had left, why now????



Right now my thoughts are this. I am going to go to a marriage counselor in the next couple weeks. Once I get an appointment I think I would like to send my wife an email to let her know my intentions and give her an open invitation to attend. I'm not going to try to force her. I will simply tell her that I feel I need to go to help myself, so that maybe I can sort through my emotions and get the council of a professional.
I think that I need to try to stay away from her for a bit too. Every weekend she has contacted me and spent some time with me, even though it wasn't "quality" time. I almost feel like she's doing it purposely to see me. I'm not going to see her this weekend or have contact with her. The next time I contact her will be somethime next week with the counseling appointment.
Does this sound like a good idea????