I find that being opposite in the introvert / extrovert area is very helpful....like Cosmos said...where he is grounded & less emotional....her husband likely helps "calm" her jets when she gets too emotional or WIRED... I know it works JUST THIS WAY with me & my husband ....and I know If I was with another with my same temperment of primarily Choleric, we would be banging our heads against the wall ... I am harder to please over him, he is EASY to please...seriously....he also has more patience than me... it helps tremendously that we want the same things in life.
It even states in tempermenets books that opposites do attract in this area...they fill in the gaps for each others strenghts & weaknesses. So long as they understand each other, this works well.
Where I think it gets sticky is when those love languages are way off, with her tops at his bottoms & vice versa, as I think we all want what we want....and it is hard to change our inborn LONGING in these areas, even if we do understand, it is still a PUSHING to please in many ways.
And when our personal marital goals, beliefs, dreams, how we handle $$, ideas of parentings, all these little things...they add up pretty significantly.
| Feelingdown said : For example, both love kids, both have similar level of ambition, both like to travel and things that will be important to keep things harmonised in a marriage.