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knortoh · 10-27-2009, 06:52 PM

Yeah thanks CW I guess it is mind blowing to find out that you are
emotionally dishonest....while I see it as fixable personality trait
for him it all adds up to one big lie - our relationship - with me at the centre - couldn't love me didn't love me - thought he was a f*** up ...something happened (OW) and he thought I am not a f***up I have just been in a bad relationship - she's not a bad person - it's not her fault - I just was never honest - and if I would have been 14 years ago we wouldn't be here now - I would have met someone I truly loved and had a happier life with them...
(regrets regrets)

this is where his inability to think with any delicacy emotionally comes through - it's so dramatic - who honestly leaves their 14 year relationship (and children) on a spur and returns on a spur and thinks that's ok?

but as you have said so many times CW - it's free will - he is going to choose to work this out however he does - in this case on his lonesome - miserable, guilty but not as pressured...

10-27-2009, 06:52 PM	#192 (permalink)
knortoh Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,362	Re: My New Beginning Yeah thanks CW I guess it is mind blowing to find out that you are emotionally dishonest....while I see it as fixable personality trait for him it all adds up to one big lie - our relationship - with me at the centre - couldn't love me didn't love me - thought he was a f* up ...something happened (OW) and he thought I am not a f*up I have just been in a bad relationship - she's not a bad person - it's not her fault - I just was never honest - and if I would have been 14 years ago we wouldn't be here now - I would have met someone I truly loved and had a happier life with them... (regrets regrets) this is where his inability to think with any delicacy emotionally comes through - it's so dramatic - who honestly leaves their 14 year relationship (and children) on a spur and returns on a spur and thinks that's ok? but as you have said so many times CW - it's free will - he is going to choose to work this out however he does - in this case on his lonesome - miserable, guilty but not as pressured...