Alone@home

Thanks for confirming the withdrawing.

I have some new thoughts I'd like to share.

I spoke to a friend of hers the other night. They've been friends since high school. We talked for several hours...

We came up with the idea that my wife might be suffering from depression. It runs in her family and her dad and younger sister both suffer from it pretty bad. My wife has never seemed to suffer from it badly but now I'm thinking there has been a lot of months over the years when she feels really down about everything. She's never been a confident person, and shy. She's always talked of going back to school but has never applied (until now when she moved to her parents), and for months now she hasn't been happy with her job and got turned down for a position change that she really wanted, and all her freinds are going through divorces. A letter she wrote a couple weeks before leaving asked me if I'd be ok if she went on medication.
My wife, since she left to stay at her parents a month ago has stopped talking to her two best girl friends about anything that is going on bwtn us, though she does hang out with them for a couple hours one night a week just to say hi. From what I see she's not going out much, and her two friends tell me the same. She just isn't herself...
I talked to my wife on Thurs about picking something up from her that she has. I knew she had Sat. off work, and that guy I talk about doesn't work weekends so I assumed that she would be hanging with him all day and night. Usually when a new relationship starts up you'll try to spend every moment possible with that new person, right? I remember all my ex-girlfreinds etc. and that's what I did!

I called her Thurs if I could pick something up over the weekend. She told me that Sat I could come over any time to her parents because she had no plans at all. Said she was just doing laundry and cutting the grass for her dad. NO plans for the evening either! She almost seemed to have an underlying tone like "nobody wants to spend time with me..."
Anyways, today being Sat. I worked until noon. She sent a text message just before I got off work and asked if I was still planning on coming by. I told her no but might need to pick it up for either next weekend or the one after. She responded by saying, "no prob, I don't have plans. Just let me know!"
Again with this "no plans" again....

If it is depression, I want to help her through it. I'm willing to put our marriage issues to the side until she can feel better. I want to talk to her about it and tell her I will support her but I'm afraid of mentioning it becuase she might take it the wrong way???