frustratedinphx

I actually didn't let things get physical while I was pregnant (I'm now the proud mom of a 5wo daughter) out of the little remaining respect that I have for my husband, despite my other "relationship" with my friend.

Ironically since giving birth a lot has happened during our relationship. My husband, post-delivery, is now clamoring to get back into my pants which I'm glad for except that there were several dramatic events that have made his renewed lust for me bittersweet.

To start, my parents came into town to "help" after the baby was born. They visit wasn't the greatest and caused a lot of friction between my husband and me because of his very passive-aggressive relationship with my mother which up until their visit was pretty much kept at bay. Things deteriorated to the point where my husband was threatening divorce because he was frustrated my parents were there and he ultimately told my parents they had out-stayed their welcome and pretty much sent them packing.

My family (as annoying as they can be) is very important to me and after he went there and basically told them off, I'm having a hard time writing that off. His relationship with my parents has been irreparably been damaged. I now have the prospect of a lifetime of miserable family gatherings or none at all. Nevermind all of that, but the fact that he was threatening divorce not because he meant it, but to "get my attention" as he claims does NOT sit well with me.

It's nice that he suddenly thinks I'm beautiful again, but I can't get over the divorce part or the severe lack of respect for my parents. I can barely look him in the eyes now, let alone kiss him or be physical. After 2.5 years of counseling and the latest turn of events I'm not sure this marriage will ever get back on track. I'm basically furious with both my husband and parents for putting me in the middle of a horrible situation while I have a new baby and a c-section recovery to deal with.

Michzz- have you ever had a baby? they test you for everything in the book prior to delivery. so no, i have no STDs and wouldn't dream of putting my baby at risk for being exposed to one. And my professional counseling has been under way for a long time. I somewhat suspect my counselor has reached the point where he's not exactly encouraging me to stay in my marriage anymore. I'm now left with stay and endure God-knows what else from someone who is capable of being wonderful with a really dark side or leave the financial stability that we have built up and completely restart during an economic downtime. Neither option seems great- in fact both options suck!

Thanks for the continued thoughts and posts- they are very helpful!