Thank you all for your input
Because your feedback was so encouraging, here are the points i thought of myself and gathered from the net:
Being a good husband:
1. Be strong.
2. Be a man of your word.
3. Grow up.
4. Be responsible.
5. Plan ahead.
6. Keep a full-time job with regular raises, benefits, etc. to maintain family security.
7. Always arrive home refreshed and happy.
8. Be prepared to help with household chores when you get home and let your wife relax.
9. Do not bore your wife with stories of the troubles you faced at work today.
10. Never expect your wife to have contributed to the smooth operation of the household.
11. Be prepared to account for your whereabouts every minute of the day
12. Do not grumble about handing over your paycheque to her – having a wife is sharing your life with someone you love.
13. Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. Empathize.
14. Be prepared to give up your weeknights or weekends to whatever projects or socializing your wife has in mind.
15. Always be prepared to take over in caring for the children when you get home from work.
16. Stop trying to be an emotional Mr. Fix-It. We just want someone to say, “Wow, that must really hurt. That must feel really hard,” to say it with deep concern and love and mean it.
17. Own your stuff. Deal with yours and encourage your wife to do the same with hers.
18. Speak your heart.
19. Avoid being judgmental.
20. Be generous and fair with money.
21. Think like part of a team.
22. Be affectionate.
23. Own up when you’ve messed up.
24. Care about her well-being.
Remember that your wife is not a man.
“A woman wants a strong, silent man she can depend on.”
Being a good father:
Be more caring and easy to get close to:
1. The father needs to keep company of his children and know every side of them in order to form a close relationship.
2. The father can also show the tender side towards his children.
3. Participate more in the parent-child activities held by the children's schools so as to create more topics of talks of interest.
4. Show more comfort and concern to your children.
Show more admiration and acceptance:
1. Pay more attention to and show admiration for your children.
2. Respect the desires of your children and understand their difficulties.
3. Listen more to the views of your children.
4. Praise and confirm more of the achievements of your children and relieve unnecessary stress.
1. He's a good disciplinarian.
2. He allows his kids to make some mistakes.
3. He's open-minded.
4. He teaches his children to appreciate things.
5. He accepts that his kids aren't exactly like him.
6. He spends quality time with his children.
7. He leads by example.
8. He's supportive & loyal.
9. He challenges his kids.
10. He teaches his children lessons.
11. He protects his family at all costs.
12. He shows unconditional love.