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hitrockbottom · 06-15-2008, 12:00 PM

So finally my wife came out with it all.....

I thought I was making headway...nope

She said that the last year or two has been filled w/disappointment.
She said that she is tired of me judging her.

She wants to have her life, not our life....but she didn't say she wanted a divorce or a seperation....she said she wanted to start as friends again? Ok, fine.

I'm still in the house. Asked her to xplain the disappointments to me at another time.

She said she is still hurt and can't trust me. Therefore she doesn't know if the things I am doing are sincere...understandable.

She said she wants me to be open as far as my where abouts and what I am doing....but at the same time doesn't want to feel selfish so she doesn't...ummmmm ok?

I told her she has every right to feel hurt and to not trust me. But I also asked her in the last year what have we done together? What do we have in common as far as hobbies?

I said that you have hardened your heart so much that your not wanting to even leave a little optimism there for me.

At least I know where I stand now. I said I am going to show you that the things I have done I mean....these are things for me.

I told her that I still love...I and I always will...I'm not giving up yet and I am not leaving the house. I told her that the last few years of bottling **** up is what caused this and if she wants to even begin to fix it...instead of me running around like a chicken with his head cut off not knowing whats going on....then she needs to talk to me.

She said fine but she wanted to be civil and not be irritated at each other...I said lets talk...things get heated walk away..

She said that she doesn't want to read my journal...that she thinks I write what I want her to hear in there....I don't but what ever...she said that when I have gotten upset or told her that I don't feel needed that I said it because I want to make her feel bad.....I just want to tell you how I feel damnit.

I don't know what going on..I know that the hope for my marriage is growing ever so slimmer....

06-15-2008, 12:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
hitrockbottom Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 177	Re: Talking to my Wife.. So finally my wife came out with it all..... I thought I was making headway...nope She said that the last year or two has been filled w/disappointment. She said that she is tired of me judging her. She wants to have her life, not our life....but she didn't say she wanted a divorce or a seperation....she said she wanted to start as friends again? Ok, fine. I'm still in the house. Asked her to xplain the disappointments to me at another time. She said she is still hurt and can't trust me. Therefore she doesn't know if the things I am doing are sincere...understandable. She said she wants me to be open as far as my where abouts and what I am doing....but at the same time doesn't want to feel selfish so she doesn't...ummmmm ok? I told her she has every right to feel hurt and to not trust me. But I also asked her in the last year what have we done together? What do we have in common as far as hobbies? I said that you have hardened your heart so much that your not wanting to even leave a little optimism there for me. At least I know where I stand now. I said I am going to show you that the things I have done I mean....these are things for me. I told her that I still love...I and I always will...I'm not giving up yet and I am not leaving the house. I told her that the last few years of bottling **** up is what caused this and if she wants to even begin to fix it...instead of me running around like a chicken with his head cut off not knowing whats going on....then she needs to talk to me. She said fine but she wanted to be civil and not be irritated at each other...I said lets talk...things get heated walk away.. She said that she doesn't want to read my journal...that she thinks I write what I want her to hear in there....I don't but what ever...she said that when I have gotten upset or told her that I don't feel needed that I said it because I want to make her feel bad.....I just want to tell you how I feel damnit. I don't know what going on..I know that the hope for my marriage is growing ever so slimmer....