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Originally Posted by nikki4384
 He leaves for about an hour and then comes back acting like nothing happened and trying to flirt and get me to have sex with him. : |
I doubt this is a fetish - and it doesn't necessarily mean he's using drugs. I suspect it's more likely he's the kind of person who moves on from incident to incident quickly. This is a personality issue - I see this in couples a lot. One person (not necessarily the male) gets really riled up then forgets about it an hour later - while the other one is left reeling and angry still. Regarding the sex thing - I'm concerned that he's pushing you pretty hard. Typically, "no" means "no" unless this is a game you're both actively engaged in.
All in all - seems like you guys need to clear the air on several fronts. 1) What's up with the sudden fighting? Is this intentional for some strange reason? (some people are quite comfortable in chaos if they've been accustomed to it in their lives) 2) You should try to resolve the differences you may have in how you process your conflict - he drops it and you don't. Whoever needs to talk more about it has that right. Otherwise there will be a buid up of resentment. 3) What's up with him pushing himself on you and why are you letting him? (that's another place for resentment to build)
People can be "addicted" to conflict. Like I mentioned earlier, if he has had a lot of life experiences that were like this - it can become a more comfortable or familiar place to be. Sounds strange - but it's true. A therapist could help him process that.