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As for the Example that you used I never out and out said anything like that...I would say the correct thing but then act differently from what I said...or I would be emphatic toward her situation and then Mumble something....Not really intentionally but I would....I guess from what I found out this weekend that it hurt her, or she thought I would do it with the intent to hurt her...

I ask to do things for her all the time but I don't phrase them the way you said...I guess it could seem as if I was being Needy/Clingy..

aah so much more to work on..I was so screwed up this last year...or two.

So heres some more check list:

- Need to work on showing empathy and meaning it
- Quit trying to control all aspects of her. Nicely or not.
- SLowly work on coming back into her life, as her husband.
- Being consistant on my mood/actions of what I said I was gong to do.
- Volunteer my where abouts but to the excess that she thinks I am doing it to be sarcastic or mean....

I hate this balance beam...

thanks again guys