OK, I am not new to this forum, u could come across some of my postings.
My story in short: We are married for 8++ years, we have 7 month old twins, Husband works away from home and comes home fortnightly ever since I was 4 months preggie, We had two breaking points in our marriage (first, when babies were two months old-I felt I have been doing too much and he hardly helps but we settled it through communication. Secondly, when I found out that he had replied a spam sex mail asking the girl to send photos), this issue really took a toll on our marriage and finally managed to settle it somehow. We have been (sort of) back to normal since last 3 months or so but again I am starting to feel down.
Taking care of twins is a very very tiring job especially if they are extremely active and are still young. I get only 4 hours of sleep sometimes. Whenever husband is home he helps out a lot and we do a lot of things together with the babies (going for a walk, shopping, playing, swimming etc) but i feel that we hardly get couple time. Babies usually go to bed around 7pm and after that he does his things and I do my things (I do so b/c he's not available). I long to spend some romantic time with him and atleast once a week, it doesnt have to be a expensive outing or anything, just sit together and talk to each other about ourselves. We do sit and talk with each other but most of the time its about the kids or some outsiders or other family memebers. He seems to be quiet happy with the way things are but I am not. I have brought this up many times but he keeps saying that we ARE spending enough time..........but he doesnt seem to understand WHAT type of time am i talking about Or he just pretending not to know??? I am all pissed of todayb/c he was on course the whole of last week and I hardly disturb once the babies go to bed as he had to study. his course ended yesterday and I have been looking forward to spend some quality time with him saturday evening but he said he promised to meet his only close friend for a chat. I am sad, very worried that he doesnt enjoy my company anymore.
Is he bored with me? Does he fallen out of love with me? Does he finds me unattractive (I have become shapeless after going thru twin pregnancy), Does romance really dies after kids arrive? Has anyone felt the same way for ur spouse even after having children? I am sooooo confused and feel so sad. Sometimes I wonder if I am asking for too much, Do u think I should start to entertain myself without having to wait for him??
Oh forgot to mention, he is leaving for a overseas project tomorrow and will only be back after a month and thats one reason why I am angry that he spends the last free time with his friend......
I am really sorry for this long long post, but I need to vent this somewhere..........and this is the right place I believe!
Hope u guys will give me some insight
