Anxiety!!!!

Stacie1019 · 04-25-2008, 10:29 PM

I have been suffering through anxiety for about three years now. I do not know what to do, because I have tried different methods on how to cope with it. Now it is greatly affecting my household. My husband can't rely on me he pretty much stated, and he now talks down to me. A month or so ago he told me he wanted to help me cope with my anxiety by being supportive and praising me everytime I make a step in the right direction, but after one episode, he said he's done with it because he felt as if I wasn't encouraging to him.

I do not know what to do because my anxiety won't let me go and work for a company. I know I can get better without medication, (I tried that once and it didn't go too well), but I do not know what to do about him. He gets so easily frustrated whenever I mention that I have anxiety, and even though he told me he would help, tonight he told me that he does not want me to telling him whenever I feel anxious because he'll probably get irritated.

I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, because in order for me to get better, I was leaning on him for moral support, and now he seems as though he's lost all hope and given up. What should I do? This issue has threatened a divorce a couple times already!!

draconis · 04-26-2008, 04:53 PM

Have a doctor tell him what you need from him.

dracois

shane33 · 04-28-2008, 09:03 AM

I have suffered from anxiety for 4 years now and through self education and medication i have been getting better but it is not easy go see your dr. and he/she can help you get in the right direction you will probably need some counceling but trust me go do it or your life will be torn apart. People who do not suffer from anxiety cannot understand what the problem is.I know i speak from experiance go get some help.

Deejo · 06-17-2008, 01:22 PM

As Draconis pointed out, I would strongly urge both you and your husband to become fully engaged with a physician that can provide you with options for dealing with this.

I got a bit of 'you are going it alone' vibe from your post. You need a support system, and guidance provided by a professional.

The best unprofessional advice I can give you, is to consider an exercise routine if you are not already doing so. Exercise is without question, the single best bit of self-help you can do for yourself both physically and emotionally.

izz4u2mm · 06-18-2008, 07:46 PM

Stacie...please hang in there and go see your doctor. Don't let your hubby get you down. If he had anxiety like you do..believe me he would be on bending knees!!!. Seek a little counseling for the 2 of u and let him understand whats really going on and how you might feel. I was took down by my W for the same reason for many years until she learned that if she really loved me she would have to accept my illness and stay with me. I suffered alot with her and wanted to run away for a long time but I kept on seeking help from doctors, therapists etc. I educated myself and my wife in and about anxiety disorder. You hang in there baby!!!

Maybe some mild meds might help but please don't get heavy duty meds like I had been taking for many years ...it only made me worst with the side effects. Consult a doctor.
Come on Stacie you can do it.
Manny

possum · 06-24-2008, 10:00 AM

There have beeen a LOT of advances in the past several years with regards to anti-depressants and anxiety treatements. There are very real physical effects on our bodies that result from imbalances in our brain chemistry. We usually get there very slowly over the course of months if not years so we're not aware of just how far we've gone. I urge you to talk to your doctor about the many drug choices available for treatment.

One other comment: You don't need your husband's support to deal with this. Ultimately, we all have to deal with this sort of thing on our own. After you've got this under control, you may have a lot of resentment towards him for not helping you get through it. Please understand that he is just a human being and he simply cannot understand what you're going through. If you haven't gone through this sort of thing - you really just have no idea.