Separation - Page 2

VONSTER · 01-21-2008, 06:30 AM

Draconis, I wrote this email to her but not sure if I should send it what do you think?

"I had a great time last night, thank you very much for the date last night although I think the football game in a sports bar may have been a tad more fun ;-). I enjoyed being with you. I think Im guilty of something I think Im guilty of not listening to you I know you have told me a 1000 times but I have been so focused on me and my issues that I have not really taken the time to really listen to your concerns or how I treat you or make you feel so I thought if you have the time you can jot them down or just tell me whichever is easiest. Just whenever youre ready"

draconis · 01-21-2008, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by VONSTER

Draconis, I wrote this email to her but not sure if I should send it what do you think?

"I had a great time last night, thank you very much for the date last night although I think the football game in a sports bar may have been a tad more fun ;-). I enjoyed being with you. I think Im guilty of something I think Im guilty of not listening to you I know you have told me a 1000 times but I have been so focused on me and my issues that I have not really taken the time to really listen to your concerns or how I treat you or make you feel so I thought if you have the time you can jot them down or just tell me whichever is easiest. Just whenever youre ready"

That is a nice start.

Now it is up to her TRUST. If she trusts you with the information please really read it and take it to heart without feeling like you have to defend yourself. She needs more then anything to be able to tell you how she really feels without guilt or worry.

I wish you the best, it sounds like you are slowly changing for the better. I hope she sees it and it isn't to little to late.

Please keep us informed.

draconis

VONSTER · 01-21-2008, 09:17 AM

I will for sure thank you very much!

ronnieswifey1120 · 02-08-2008, 07:14 PM

VONSTER...

In some sense, you are my husband and I am your wife.

My husband was "burned" very bad in his last marriage and is trying to "redeem" himself in our marriage. He's very insecure and constantly worries about losing me. His insecurities is in turn, pushing me away. I on the other hand, am trying my hardest to understand where he's coming from and am willing to help him get past his insecurities although it is draining me. Your marriage is only going to work out if your wife is willing to work it out with you. Like the saying goes: you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. If you are doing everything you can, within reason, to make it work and she doesn't want to make it work, it won't work. In my 3 months of marriage, I've learned that if we both don't agree, it aint gonna happen!

I hope this helped the least bit. I wish you the best of luck!