Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Here and there, but nowhere
Re: The Facebook Fuss - Frustrated Friendships?
Fakebook was the tool my STBXWW used to kill our marriage.
The only real reason I joined was to keep an eye on her. For years she was posting sexy pictures of herself an an attempt to gain attention. She would also post flirty/ambiguous phrases in attempt to elicit responses. She would spend half of her lazy day on fakebook. When she got a smart phone she started checking it almost constantly. It became an addiction. She tuned me and our children completely out. I discussed my feelings with her about this many times but she was unwilling to change. The number of friends she collected kept growing...girls and guys. This was strange for someone who only had a hand full of friends when we met. She started to crave external validation. I guess when I told her and showed her how beautiful she was...it didn't count because, "as her husband, I had to say those things". She eventually hooked up with an old friend from school and proceeded to have an affair for 1 1/2 years.
After this divorce is over I will never get involved with someone who has a constant need to check their Fakebook page.