I can't imagine sharing EVERYTHING with my husband. Even in marriage, some people still need some degree of private space. I will always keep a journal and I would be livid if he read it. I do not open hubby's mail, nor do I eavesdrop on his rare phone conversations.
I understand others are different. I really do. We likely are VERY ODD in the scheme of normal marraiges. But it really IS our way, our desire to BE this OPEN. I feel it has given us a very successful marriage, neither of us has ever felt pressured, or the other was invading thier space, nothing like that, we both love that the other is interested & wants to be near and share. Again, I know that sounds ODD.
My husband is not a man who needs his "CAVE", his private time, it is a rarity I am sure in men. We have talked about this, I told him he is STRANGE in this way, Not like other men. But I love that about him. There is nothing he cares to keep from me, and nothing I care to keep from him. Very little offends us either, we are not bent out of shape if he looks at a sexy woman and I catch a glimpse of a hot guy on the beach, for us, that is just human nature, not a slap in the face to our love for each other in any way. He calls me a dirty old woman and I call him a dirty old man. It's all good
I started 2 journals, one for our family & one just for "US", I guess I look at this differently, I see no me, I only see "US". I would be happy if he wanted to read that, but I tell him so much I put in there, he has no reason to go there. He already knows!
We would think nothng of looking at each other's mail, his mail is my mail , or being in the room when the other is on the phone- always. We have guy friends that call me to talk sometimes (I am more of a talker of the 2 of us), because I am the way I am, he has no worry what so ever if I talk to these friends. There is no room for suspicion. It is one of the things he loves about me that gives him the most TRUST. He wants that. And I want it in return as well. I've never questioned him on anything where he has given me the slightest "push back" -that he is seeking privacy from me. EVER , and we've been together now 22 yrs married plus 8 dating.
Again, maybe RARE -but it works beautifully for us. We are a PERFECT match in this respect.
I'd NEVER find another like him, this I am sure. I will hold him extra tight tonight!