My Husband wants a divorce
Okay to start the story off, my husband and I met 6-1/2 years ago, we have been married 5-1/2 and have a 4 year old daughter. (Whom we both love and adore)
My husband and I have very different veiws on how a family with a child should act. Both my husband and I are very social people, and this last year I have been much less social, I don't want to go out on the weekends, I want to stay at home with my daughter and do family things where as he wants to still go out with the boys all the time. Which I put up with for about 2 years, then I started to notice a difference. He was coming home when ever he felt it was time to come home. Plus our bedroom life went down the toilet. (Also he had lost his job) So anyway, I ended up meeting someone and we had a texting relationship, we did kiss a couple of times, but nothing more than that, there was always something holding me back (I was married) Well my husband came across the text messages, and that was when everything really started. I tried to explaint hat what I did wasn't right and how sorry I was, but him being out all night and not wanting to be with me lead me to talk with this other man. We decided we were going to work it out, and things were great, until our first fight. Then it all came out again, how horrible I was and he called me every name in the book, but I was determind not to give up, and said to myself this is his anger talking he doesn't mean it, he just needs time. Well then things were okay for a while and another fight but worse. More name calling and verbal abuse. but I stuck it out again, and then this last argument he realized he can't make it work. I feel like I am falling apart, and I feel it is all my fault. BUT I do know that it takes two, and the reason I did what I did was because I was unhappy. Now my husband called me at work in the middle of the day to tell me he thinks it is best if we get a divorce. So I set up an appointment for my daughter with a counselor so she can talk with someone while we go through the process. But if anyone can tell me things that might help me get him back? I can't stand the thought of my daughter not having both of herreal parents at home every night. Having to deal with Step moms and step dads. I never wanted or dreamed of that for her. And I think about how happy we used to be and I know in my heart we could get back there, but only if he wanted to. Is there any advice any of you can give me? I can't eat or sleep which is causing major anxiety, and I just want my old life back? Please help.