My wife and I have been together for 4 years and married for 1.5. We have a beautiful baby girl who is 20months old. About 6 months ago my wife told me that she feels that she has fell out of love with me, she says that I don't act the same way that I did in the beginning of our relationship, that I work a lot and don't spend so much time with her as we used to, she also says that sometimes she cringes when we kiss. I'm not a bad husband, I don't drink, don't go out late with friends or sleep around, I don't yell, I try to take care of everything so that she and the baby are comfortable.
I have been working hard to provide and majority of my time is working and trying to help her take care of the house. She was 19 when we met and I was 24, I work 2 jobs to cover expenses and on my days off I try to spend time with her and the baby, she is a stay at home mom and has been doing less and less housework and letting everything go. She says that im the one who doesn't love her, I cant believe it I'm so head over heels for her, I do agree with her that I haven't shown her how much I love her recently, I used to hold her every night and now because I work 2 jobs I'm so tired at night with my back hurting that I just sleep on my back.
She has gained about 70 pounds from her pregnancy that she has been having a hard time loosing, I lover her so much that the extra weight is not bothering me, i lover no mater what and I have been encouraging her to loose weight and even been dieting with her and I actually got into so much better shape that she has been feeling so self conscious that she refuses to get undressed in front of me anymore. She feels as though she has not accomplished anything in life she and that I baby her a lot of times. In the early days of our relationship she kissed another man, but she regretted it and apologized for it, I don't even bring it up, but sometimes she says that she doesn't deserve a nice guy like me. Recently she acts more and more depressed, she says she doesn't feel like a partner but just someone living in the house and taking care of a baby, I do agree with her that I try to do all the errands and even most chores, but I do them so that she doesn't have to and to make things easier for her. Its so strange one day she would tell me how much she loves me and be all happy and cheerful and how she has these great ideas for our next anniversary and our next vacation and then in a week she could be telling me how much she doesn't love me anymore, its like a cycle. I don't know what to do.
3 days ago she packed a suitcase and when to her parents house, she says she wants some time apart to see if she will miss me. She tells me that we should take a month apart or even longer and see if we want to get back together. I have been so depressed and don't even know what to do, vie tried talking to her about us and telling her that I will try to fix any issues that we had and make her feel more equal in this relationship but she says she just wants time apart to think if she wants to come back. She did this once before but came back after a week, I just don't think it will be so simple this time.
Does anyone have any advice? I was hoping that she would at least stay in the house and that I could move on the couch but at least we can talk things out but she just doesn't want to talk at all.
I have been working hard to provide and majority of my time is working and trying to help her take care of the house. She was 19 when we met and I was 24, I work 2 jobs to cover expenses and on my days off I try to spend time with her and the baby, she is a stay at home mom and has been doing less and less housework and letting everything go. She says that im the one who doesn't love her, I cant believe it I'm so head over heels for her, I do agree with her that I haven't shown her how much I love her recently, I used to hold her every night and now because I work 2 jobs I'm so tired at night with my back hurting that I just sleep on my back.
She has gained about 70 pounds from her pregnancy that she has been having a hard time loosing, I lover her so much that the extra weight is not bothering me, i lover no mater what and I have been encouraging her to loose weight and even been dieting with her and I actually got into so much better shape that she has been feeling so self conscious that she refuses to get undressed in front of me anymore. She feels as though she has not accomplished anything in life she and that I baby her a lot of times. In the early days of our relationship she kissed another man, but she regretted it and apologized for it, I don't even bring it up, but sometimes she says that she doesn't deserve a nice guy like me. Recently she acts more and more depressed, she says she doesn't feel like a partner but just someone living in the house and taking care of a baby, I do agree with her that I try to do all the errands and even most chores, but I do them so that she doesn't have to and to make things easier for her. Its so strange one day she would tell me how much she loves me and be all happy and cheerful and how she has these great ideas for our next anniversary and our next vacation and then in a week she could be telling me how much she doesn't love me anymore, its like a cycle. I don't know what to do.
3 days ago she packed a suitcase and when to her parents house, she says she wants some time apart to see if she will miss me. She tells me that we should take a month apart or even longer and see if we want to get back together. I have been so depressed and don't even know what to do, vie tried talking to her about us and telling her that I will try to fix any issues that we had and make her feel more equal in this relationship but she says she just wants time apart to think if she wants to come back. She did this once before but came back after a week, I just don't think it will be so simple this time.
Does anyone have any advice? I was hoping that she would at least stay in the house and that I could move on the couch but at least we can talk things out but she just doesn't want to talk at all.