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Originally Posted by 2010TAX
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Sneak out. Once she hit you, she gave up her right to be informed of anything. Take all your property, take all your money, take all of her money also, rent an apartment and have an attorney contact her.
Violent people have no right to anything. If you sit down and try to "work out" your separation, she might stick a steak knife into your chest, or dial 911 and falsely accuse you of almost anything. As a male, the law will not defend you. Your only recourse is to vanish, leave no forwarding address or contact number, and have her talk to you via your attorney. Once the divorce details are worked out, she can get her half of the money back.
You have no other alternative. She is a deranged dangerous criminal, and you must leave immediately.
Good luck.
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If a woman doesn't want to get hit, and she tries to get away from the guy, he can pin her down and keep hitting. She HAS no choice.
If a man doesn't want to get hit, he can simply turn around and leave the room, if he's sufficiently larger and stronger than her. What's she going to do...grab his legs and hang on as he walks out the door?
A man can psychologically choose to accept abuse from a woman, just like a woman can, but physically he typically has the option to escape.
I am in no way debating that abuse is not wrong. Merely that a larger human can choose not to stand there while a smaller human beats on him.
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Turnera, you have no idea what you are talking about.
A woman has
far more power to be violet with a man than a man has to be violent with a woman. A woman can ambush her husband, smash his head with a frying pan, then calmly dial 911 and have
him arrested for domestic violence. In all 50 states, the man is the presumed aggressor and will automatically be taken to jail. There are no shelters that will accept male victims, and no programs, money, or services that will cater to a male victim. There is virtually no one who will even acknowledge that there is such a thing as a male victim of domestic violence. But there are.
I was in an physically abusive relationship and the only way I was able to escape was to secretly record my ex attempting to terrify me with all the ways in which she could physically assault me and then turn the legal table and have me charged and imprisoned for that same assault. Armed with this tape, I made my escape. She sued me in civil court for money and possessions, but I did not care because I was
free.
Had she suspected or found my recording equipment, there would have been no escape for me. She was very detailed and precise when she described her plans to destroy my life if I ever left her.
The only thing that prevents a woman from gaming the system is the integrity of that woman. Most women have integrity and would not use the law in the ways that I have described. But many possessive women do use the law, and many abused men end up in prison or in the cemetery as a result of daring to plan an escape.
Your ignorance of this is as common as it is shocking.
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