Re: My husband is falling to pieces.
This was totally a suttle way to leave you, you need to accept that. If he were doing well for himself, you think he'd want to come back to you? No, you are both feeling lonely and hanging on to the past, those good times that made you both love one another. I think its time to close the chapter to this book, you need to move on. If you managed to be without him all this time, dont step backwards. And dont send him money, youre enabling him, he's probably out there buying liquor with that money for all you know.
A drunk is a drunk and until HE seeks help and becomes a better person he'll just keep dragging you down. Just thinking of him now is enabling you from finding someone you deserve, who will love you and fufill you completely. I was in a relationship with a man for 8 years and he was a drunk. Not a severe drunk but a stupid drunk who'd drive. Im so happy I left him, and got off that wagon. I found someone and moved on, and he is cited to appear in court for DUI this time with full suspension of his license and mandatory jail time. Again glad this is no longer my drama.
Do not take him back, you already went thru the hardest part, hang in there, you'll find someone.