turnera

She's not going to listen to us. She came here wanting to be told it's ok to trash her family so she can scr&w this guy, and she didn't get it.

bella_b

turnera, WTH?? That's just all I can say.

WELL... FYI the affair is called off and I'm back with the husband trying to sort things out. It doesn't look hopeful but my time away has made him look at things more in depth and last night we had a chat. I was blown away by the things he said. turns out he's hidden a LOT from me so we're onto a WHOOOOLE new chapter. We're going to try and sort it out as best we can but we're both prepared to call it a day if we just can't figure it out. We're just not as compatible as we first thought.

I DO appreciate everyone's help and I WAS listening. I just wanted to explain everything so no details were missed.

I've quickly learned that discussing these things on forums isn't right. This place won't be hearing from me again.

Now if you excuse me, I have a marriage to save.

TNgirl232

Good luck bella! You'll find that this topic specifically is very polarized. Most who have been cheated on, and not recovered well from it, will be the most vehement in their responses on what a bad person you are for what you've done. (They are speaking from a hurting place and strike out at anyone similar to those who have hurt them. which from their position is understandable) They don't realize that they haven't walked in your shoes and they shouldn't make judgments about your overall person based on one posting. Most here provide good advice, and not just through out accusations. Please feel welcome to discuss things while you are trying to work through your issues.

turnera

I'm glad to hear you have left the OM. I have every confidence you can rebuild your marriage, if you are both trying and there isn't a third party involved. That's all I was asking you to do.