I had little talk with my T first and she said that she felt relaxed to see the way I am talking in a really structured and organized mind.
First he looked at the T and said i just need to know why i am here?
I felt my T puzzled from his question I said you have a very important subject to say and i can have a third party anyone i want so i found the best one who knows better about our situation is my T
He looked back at her and said but there are things personal i don't want to discuss in front of you it is not a patient session
I said too late to say that, you should say that three days ago when you knew that the meeting is going to be with her.
He said true ok but i can not express myself like my wife does in English i prefer to talk in our language I have never talked to my wife in English
I also said i can ask if my T agree i will translate what you can not say in English
He started the conversation for around 10 min blablabla in our language and i was translating everything but than i said you are wasting time we don't have much time and everything you said you can say it in English then he started talking in English
The T was doing good by letting me answer his questions. She didn't have to take a side she was very logical with her answers and she told him in her way that getting back together for kids is not going to help them also she suggested to find a T to our son
He disagreed and said our son doesn't need a T he needs a family a whole family together to feel secured
She said even now you can communicate to give your kids what they need and they will feel secure...
I said what is affecting our son and our kids is because you are putting them in between I know the situation is so hard but we can make it less hard by being responsible our kids are not our friends they are our responsibility but you keep hurting them by putting them in between and saying bad things about me in front of them.
He said it is because you are blocking all my ways to contact you and you are not replying for my texts or letters
I said this is not true I don't reply when you talk about love and emotions when you talk about our kids I always reply...
Then he started talking about us and the way to get back together because i am his soul and he can't live without me
He pointed to a book i was holding it and said we are from different culture and people can't live by following what books say....
The book I was holding was a spiritual book so I showed it to him and my T and I said I am not only following what the culture here or the books say I am following for most what my church and my Bible say and I don't regret anything I did until now and I am not willing to go back to the life I was living with you I am not going back to death...
Here I said you stopped seeing your T i wonder why?
He said I am seeing a T since 4 months i was waiting since a year for my company to approve it.
I said so you are going to a T through your company?
He said yes but don't worry I told the T everything and I said that we always had problems in our marriage but being laid of work affected me and made me lose my marriage. (That means he is going to think well about what he is going to say to this T so it won't affect his case with his company since he is laid off work because an injury and he is saying that this fact affected his life at home and was the reason to destroy his marriage, BS)
The T said you are following therapy and she is doing the same and this is good for both of you even if you are not together. Your son still needs to see a T too in the mean time to help him to get through this in better way
He said he needs to go back to me I am his soul and he can't raise my son the right way if I am not under the same house with him....
Time was over the T asked me if i need to add anything i said i can't give any promises i am working on myself and he is working on himself right now i am not ready to go back i don't know in the future what will happen it could take a month it could take a year but i can't give any promise
He said no. What is keeping me going on and getting help and working on myself is the hope to go back to you i need a chance to prove to you that i changed. Can i talk to you outside i said i can't talk anymore i need to go i am not feeling good yet...