turnera i don't want to set time for her because i still don't know if the judge is going to sign the paper or not.
In fact uptown my MIL was the submissive wife with a Bipolar or BPDer H he betrayed her and he was so much worse than my stbxh and she stayed with him
I can't compare myself to her if she stayed maybe for her it means i should stay and keep my marriage but for me no. My days are different my options are different and I am a different person.... I have stayed more than enough...
I don't care to prove her anything or to let her hear my side of story i know what i did i needed to do it and i don't regret it and at this point i don't care about what anyone elses think or say.... (I grew up fast
I care to stay in contact with them for my kids only.
Yesterday my D23 called me by phone and told that her grandma likes to visit me to have coffee together.
I told her, few months ago your Grandma told you to tell me that she cut me from her life also did all the big family members...
No body gave me chance to talk....
Now your grandma wants to come to see me today and i also should say yes she is welcomed..
I am not going to say it. I am hurt from all of them. I am not saying i don't want to see her but i need time to think and work on my hurt to be able to see her. It is not when she says no that i stop seeing her and when she says yes i should run for her... If she wants to see me to guilt me or beg me or try to influence my decision about your dad she will be wasting her time and mine. It is not going to work.
Not you nor her or anyone else will make me go back to your dad only if you can give me one thing that makes me want to go back to him only one thing. One more time my D23 failed to give me one reason to go back to him SAD BUT TRUE.
My D23 was trying to defend them and asked me to walk in their shoes.
I told her i spent my life walking in the others shoes no one tried to walk in mine. I can't blame her for what she did because of the way your dad twisted the reality for her but also no one can blame me for what i did or what i am doing and i have the full right to do it.
My friends i am going to meet with my MIL (MAYBE) but only when i am ready and feel comfortable. (I said maybe because when they know nothing is going to change my mind she will not want to see me).