Re: Separation ever lead to reconciliation?
Yeah, a brief history: She's reunited with the first guy she's ever made love to...she was 14, he was 15...
According to her, she's never loved me and was just waiting for the chance to get back with him. She has actively pursued him throughout the years and they've been planning concrete things over the past year.
When I met her, she was working as a server in a restaurant. We had kids and we decided she would be a stay-at-home mom. She now has her education and a career. We've switched roles and I'm now Mr. Mom.
I have been trying to find a way to reconcile. She isn't hearing it. I don't know if she ever will, but 10 years from now, I'd like to look back and know that at least I tried to save our family.
The only thing I fear about telling her for sure that I want custody, is that in Texas she can slap a restraining order on me which would force me to move out of our home. I don't know if she'd go that far to harm our kids, but then again I hardly know who this person is anymore.
When she was asking about who the kids were going to live with, she TOTALLY assumed that I would just say for them to live with her. That's why I think she was taken aback when I told her that "maybe" I'd want to keep them.
I definitely need to tell her that they are staying with me. If she wants to run away to her fantasy land, it's going to be without the kids. Can you believe that the OM and her have been looking for houses to be able to fit all the new additions to their "new" family?
I don't know if they've found one yet, but I wonder if she's stupid enough to sign any paperwork on that new house before any divorce papers are signed.
BTW, she just let me know that she won't be home this weekend. I'll let her come up with the lie she's planning on telling the kids. I'm not going to back her up.