My wife and I are high school sweethearts. We moved in together right after high school, and got married two years later, after being together for about 5 years.
Shortly thereafter, she started having some insecurities about her feelings about me. These have occurred intermittently for the last 5 years, and we've always worked through it, but lately she's been despairing that she will never be ok with the situation.
We are perfect together in EVERY other way (worldview, communication, trust, money, intelligence, interests, etc.--everything), other than that she simply feels that she no longer feels attracted to me. She agrees that objectively speaking, my appearance is fine, and she is attracted to guys whose looks are not better than mine, but she just doesn't feel any romantic chemistry between us.
What I would like to gain from posting this is some outside perspectives about how common this problem is, how often the outcome is divorce and how often the couple can work through it, and if it is work-through-able, how you do it. Please let me know if this happened to you, and what the result was. Any other advice would be greatly appreciated.
Shortly thereafter, she started having some insecurities about her feelings about me. These have occurred intermittently for the last 5 years, and we've always worked through it, but lately she's been despairing that she will never be ok with the situation.
We are perfect together in EVERY other way (worldview, communication, trust, money, intelligence, interests, etc.--everything), other than that she simply feels that she no longer feels attracted to me. She agrees that objectively speaking, my appearance is fine, and she is attracted to guys whose looks are not better than mine, but she just doesn't feel any romantic chemistry between us.
What I would like to gain from posting this is some outside perspectives about how common this problem is, how often the outcome is divorce and how often the couple can work through it, and if it is work-through-able, how you do it. Please let me know if this happened to you, and what the result was. Any other advice would be greatly appreciated.