06-01-2010, 11:52 PM
Join Date: Jun 2010
| | I just found out my husband has been texting and talking to another woman for 6 month
I just found out my husband has been texting and talking to another woman for 6 months.
A little background....I am 27 have been married for 4 years and have a 3 year old.
My husband makes me feel like Im nothing, never any sweet words, never any gifts and when I was pregnant with my son he told me on mothers day I wasn't a mom yet so I dont need anything. (guess thats not bad since him and his cousin played xbox in my room for two days after I gave birth)
I don't even get cards on special days. He got me some flowers once but he said they were giving them away at work so here. (well once more but thats when I found out about something and he felt bad)
one mothers day he asked me to make breakfast for myself cause he didnt know how to make pancakes.
Anyway I am pretty handy around the house and the car so he never thinks he should do anything for me.
I do everything he doesnt have a license so I drop my son off at daycare drop him off at work, then I pick him up then pick up my son, everyday after that I come home clean, wash clothes, cook and read to and take care of my son. Granted he does some of the cleaning and trust me i have no complaint. The thing is since we have been together we have had financial problems he didnt work for 2 years 1 of which I was paying the bills all alone and the second We lived with MY parents. (yes for a year and my dad bought our wedding rings) although we didnt have a wedding...
okay enough I have a lot to tell about why I feel neglected in the relationship and to say I have grow a distaste for even my birthday to come around doesnt cut it.
(Well it got to the point where my bro gave me a rose on mothers day and I had to leave and cry)
Okay so he was hiding his phone and sleepin with it natural sign he was hiding something. so I pick it up write down the number who just texted called it... Woman... asked him who is was... MAN....
called the number back asked if this woman knew this man... NO! Confronted... got screamed at...called this woman back she has no clue his married been talking for six months. he say that the last time he talked to her was a month ago, and he was trying to hid it so I wouldnt be hurt but he is a changed man now.
HUUMMMMM! not the first time by the way, before it was his friends cousin... then before that paying online for women to call him...
He says he has never cheated on me...?
He says that its because he doesnt think I love him anymore....
Did I mention he lies about everything even leaving work sick.
I told him I am just depressed and resentful a little and granted my attitudes are tough, but I have his back on everything anytime he is in trouble Im there.
I have been so hurt and neglected in our 4 year marriage that I am ready to give up and leave, he tells me he is changed but should I believe him. I want and don't want a divorce I feel like if I gotta feel like this I might as well be alone and make myself happy, but I love him and don't want to leave him hoping someday things will get better.
I am so tired.... How is it that I can do everything for him and still be the one hurt, am I the only one who thinks it shoulda been me talking to someone not him.
Please Does anyone have any advice on what I should do or how to approach this.!? im desperate.