06-06-2010, 12:53 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: SE Wisconsin
| | Re: should I staY?
It must be pretty hard to witness other people behaving like that; I honestly cannot imagine.
Does the home belong to both of you, or is it in one name only? If it is in your name, you can tell them to leave and call the cops to enforce it. If joint or in h's name, then you have a more difficult position.
Do you have somewhere to go to demonstrate to your h what it would be like to live without you, and only with them? It just seems really hard on you, your h, and the poor grand baby, to have these two people behaving so irresponsibly. You don't want to live with it (nor does their daughter), and h does not want to have to choose betw his wife and his son--but that is what it is coming down to. would h feel better if you agreed to do what the both of you could to help the sson and his wife get back on their feet (sounds like counseling and maybe some job training would help)?
Ultimately, if you need to leave for your own sanity, do it. H will either take a stand with his son, or he won't. You won't know until you try. God bless; I hope something works out.