07-09-2010, 10:01 AM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: Should I file for divorce or try to make it work?
Summer1320, I know all too well the conflict you're probably feeling when it comes to deciding whether to divorce or not. My husband has been abusive and after being separated for 5 weeks I still don't see ANY signs of things being different with him but I still can't commit to divorcing him. I, too, feel like divorce is inevitable but I can't even take the step to talk to an attorney. I am, however, seeing a psychologist individually to help me work through things and it has been very helpful. This might be a good option for you...especially if you are not sure you are willing to work on the marriage. I still feel that way myself.
If you think that you might want to try marriage counseling as others have suggested here, I highly recommend that you do so with a psychologist. Solely based on my experience with the marriage counselor we had, who was a licensed social worker, it truly was ineffective. Which ever route you go, if you notice the counselor/therapist talking more than you and your husband, you are in the wrong place. Also he/she should help you find the root of some of the issues so the healing can begin there.