My wife had a talk with me the other day. She told me she is not sure she loves me anymore and thinks she wants to separate. She says our 5 years of marriage has worn on her. She says i'm not emotional enough for her and don't show her enough attention and affection like I did when we were dating. She feels like I always reject her in public when she trys to kiss me or hold hands. Ive told her im not a PDA person and it makes me uncomfortable. We have to young children, and she doesn't work.
I apologized for not paying enough attention to her and promised I would be better and told her I was actually thinking I wanted to spice up our marriage a little more. It seemed to fall onto def ears.
So the plan is to sell the house in 4 months and go our separate ways(as much as we can) I told her Id like to try in those four months to turn our marriage around, she said ok. Then, the next day she text me while I was at work and said she changed her mind, she doesn't believe I will change and we will be right back to square one again. So basically she wants to just be roomates til she finds a job and we sell.
She has talked me before about these issues. I guess I didn't take her seriously enough. I don't want a divorce and am at a loss. I feel like she is being selfish in a way and is going to blow up our family to see if the grass is greener somewhere else..
Honey? Is that you? Kidding, but my H could have written this because those are my exact complaints plus a few others.
What is wrong with being affectionate to your wife in front of the kids?
What is wrong with showing her your love for her through words, like I love you, through actions like affection, through deeds like dancing in the kitchen with her while you wait for the water to boil for Mac and cheese?
How much alone time do you and your wife get each day? How often do you two go out on dates? How often do you give her sincerely compliments?
She takes care of other people's needs for love, affection, sympathy, attention, TLC...but (if you're like my H used to be) you rarely show her the same kind of TLC she gives out each and every damn damn of the year.
You can save this marriage, but you have to get rid of that stick up your ass and romance your wife. You have to show your kids what a good husband looks like, not just what a good father looks like.
Go to Marriage Builders Â® - Successful Marriage Advice
and print out two Emotional Needs Questionnaires, one for each of you. THAT will be your game plan for what YOU need to do to meet her needs and have her fall in love with you all over again.
Yes, it's possible!