Re: Wife doesn't want to try anymore.
How's it going 71, how about an update? Is the tough guy, "teach her a lesson" approach advised here doing the trick?
Here's the thing. It took your W a while to get fed up and step out. It will also take her a while to believe things will be different before she gives YOU another chance. Yep, I said gives you another chance. She's the one who gave up on you, remember?
You demanding stuff or attempting to "shock her" is not likely to get her back. You really don't have as much bargaining power right now as the posters here are leading you to believe.
Especially if she's is in deep with this guy. If she's not impressed with you, (and why would she be if you haven't shown any change for the better?) then issuing demands will only push her to OM, WHO IS MEETING HER NEEDS.
These posters are not helping you save your M, they're pushing you to end it. But hey! At least you'll get to say you were the tough guy and didn't take no sh!t!
D takes a while, so you still have time to fix this. Work on you. Be confident and strong, but loving. Be everything you know she wants. Be the H any W would be a fool to leave.
Then, even if the M doesn't work out, you'll be a better person, instead of the same person... only bitter.